A woman has taken to Facebook to share the complex circumstances surrounding her controversial divorce and to seek forgiveness from her ex-husband. She explained that her marriage was initially arranged to alleviate her family’s financial struggles, despite her being in love with her boyfriend.
The woman recounted how she had to drop out of school due to financial difficulties. Her parents, retired primary school teachers, were approached by the mother of a man based abroad who wished for her son to marry her. Despite being in a serious relationship, her parents persuaded her to accept the proposal as it seemed like an opportunity to lift the family out of poverty.
After a few conversations, they were married, and her new husband funded her nursing school education and living expenses. Despite his generosity, she rekindled her relationship with her boyfriend, who soon moved in with her. She continued to ask her husband for money, which she used to support her boyfriend’s education as well.
Eventually, she moved abroad to join her husband, where he continued to support her career aspirations, helping her get a job and work permit. However, she continued her relationship with her boyfriend and eventually became pregnant with his child.
Her husband discovered the affair before she could confess. Despite his willingness to work on their marriage, she decided to end it, admitting she had never truly loved him. She expressed remorse for her actions and offered to repay her ex-husband for his financial assistance, hoping to part on amicable terms.
“I’m responding to my husband, the man who said he married me, sponsored me into nursing school, took me abroad, and I betrayed him by processing my boyfriend’s papers to join me in the States and getting pregnant for him. Please, I’m not here to defend myself but to explain exactly what happened so the world can understand my position.
I had to drop out of school due to financial difficulties. My parents, retired primary school teachers, were approached by a woman who wished for her son to marry me. Despite being in a serious relationship and deeply in love with my boyfriend, my parents persuaded me to accept the proposal, seeing it as a way to eradicate our poverty. After a few conversations, we got married, and my husband returned abroad.
Before he left, I asked him to enroll me in nursing school and process my documents closer to my graduation to save on expenses and secure a good job. He agreed, proud of my plan. He rented and furnished an apartment for me while I studied. Shortly before he left, my boyfriend came to me, expressing his love, and we resumed our relationship. He moved in with me, and I used the money my husband sent to support him as well.
I continued asking my husband for money, complaining of financial shortages, which he always addressed by sending large sums. I used these funds to enroll my boyfriend in an ICT program, planning for him to join me abroad later. After graduating, my visa was ready, and I joined my husband in the States. He helped me get a job and a work permit, proud of my ambitions.
Despite my success, I stayed in touch with my boyfriend. After four years, his visa was approved, and he joined me. I had been avoiding pregnancy with my husband and denying him intimacy for six months. When I finally got pregnant with my boyfriend’s child, I no longer cared if my husband found out because I was deeply in love with my fiancé.
I planned to reveal everything to my husband and ask for his forgiveness, but he discovered the affair before I could. I felt no remorse and served him with divorce papers. I admit our marriage was a sham; I never loved him. My heart belonged to another. I did what I did out of love, and any woman in my position might have done the same. I’m just a woman in love. God is my witness that I didn’t intend for this to happen. I’m here to apologize. I’m so sorry, Rowland. You are a good man.
Even after everything, you still wanted to fix our marriage, even when I was pregnant by someone else. You kept apologizing when I was the one who wronged you. Please forgive me. I can’t stay with you. My heart belongs to someone else. It wouldn’t be good for us. Thank you for signing the divorce papers. My fiancé and I are ready to repay everything you’ve done for me. Please name your price. I’m pleading with you to see me as a sister you helped out of poverty. Let’s not be enemies but friends. I pray that God will repay you and send you someone who will love you as you deserve, Rowland. I know you’re a good man, and you came to social media out of frustration and depression. Please forgive me and my family. I’m so sorry.”